What Is Your Game Plan? (And, Why It Matters)

Posted by Elliott Connie - March 16, 2019 - Solution Focused Therapy - No Comments

Conducting helpful conversations is hard, there is no way around that. This can be even more challenging when you are using something that is different from the norm as the Solution Focused Approach is. In this video I share my game plan for session and why this matters so much.

Let me ask you a quick question. When you go into a
therapy or coaching session, what’s your game plan? This is a question that’s
been on my mind for the past couple of weeks. I’ve been making a lot of videos
and uh, released a free video training series about this very topic. Uh,
because I, I’ve been thinking a lot about like what is the helper thinking as
they go into the helping conversation with a client? I want to be clear, I was
like, when I say game plan, I don’t mean like what is your structured way of
doing things. But I mean like when you sit with a person, what is guiding you?
What are your beliefs? What are your tenants that you’re holding onto that
increase the likelihood that the client will be able to make changes in their
life? So for example, one of the things that I’m thinking is I really want to
talk to the hero that lives inside of the client.

I very much believe that there’s a hero that lives inside
of every single person. One of the reasons I have to, I believe it’s because we
all know that there were problems that live inside of all people, like, uh,
problems exist and all of us are flawed in some way or another. So if we accept
that we’re not perfect and we have to accept that we’re not perfectly imperfect
either, which means everybody has some block and everybody has some hero. And I
go to every session dedicated to um, elicit responses from the internal hero of
the client because I know the more the client can describe the presence of
their desired future, the more they have to tap into the internal hero to make
changes in their life. And the reason why in the past few weeks is become more
important to me. And it kind of different way of thinking and talking about it
is because I think a lot of therapists, like we’d go into the session without
being grounded on what our game plan is.

So then when the session gets difficult, as they often do,
we get stuck. And we, we, we ended up not doing the job as well as we think we
could have and or should have been. And it leads most being burnt out and
frustrated and struggling. So I want you to be very aware of what is your game
plan. And again, I don’t mean like what is your structured way of doing it, but
I mean when you enter into the task of having the solution focused
conversation, what is it that is guiding you through that process? Now, like I
said, I just made a whole video series sharing exactly what mine is in, in the
hope that that people can, can develop what theirs is. But this is such an
important thing. You know, you can learn any technique you want to, but if you
go into that technique, if you go into the task and all you have is techniques,
if you go into the session, all, you know his technique in theory, then when it
gets challenging and when the water gets choppy, you’re going to really start
to struggle.

You’re going to really start to, to have a difficult time
in the session. And I want to make sure that’s where theory technique, but also
your principles are really, really grounded. I want to make sure that your game
plan is really, really strong. So now to what the client brings up, where no
matter what happens in session, you continue on the task of being able to help
that person. Because I don’t think, I don’t think we owe it to our clients
would be helpful when the process is easy or smooth. I think we owe it to be
helpful to all of our clients in. The best way to do that is to know what our
internal game plan is, what our internal principles are, and what’s guiding us
as people and what we’re grounded in. So, um, I hope you found this helpful. I
hope that helps you think about what are your thoughts going into each session.
And in fact, I’d love for you to leave a comment below and I’d love to hear
what guides you as a professional. And hopefully some of these words could be
helpful to you. So please as usual, subscribe to my youtube channel, go on over
to my website, elliottconnie.com. I got loads of free stuff over there because
I want to inspire you because they continue to build your solution focused
skills, uh, and like, and share this video and leave a comment. I’d love to
hear your thoughts.