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Posted by Elliott Connie - September 27, 2019 - Solution Focused Therapy - No Comments

The Solution Focused Approach can be used with just about any client. While true, this reality is hard for many professionals to believe as it is counter to what most of us are told in school. As a result, the number 1 question people ask in trainings is, “how does this approach work with XYZ kind of clients”. Here’s my most current answer.

So all week I’ve been having a blast teaching in cities,
uh, around the DC area. Uh, three different cities, three different events. I
just arrived at their hotel where I’m going to do the third one tomorrow. And
in the first three cities something has come up that I want to, I want to talk
about, right? Like, so the number one question that I always get when I teach
solution focused brief therapy is people ask me, so how do you do solution
focused brief therapy with people with personality disorders or depression,
anxiety, addiction. And we think about like as a clinician we think about how
do we do this approach with like the type of client that we struggle with. And
I was thinking about how to answer that over the past few days. And I, I want
to give you an idea that really should help and bring this home solution

Brief therapy has multiple meta analysis to demonstrate
its effectiveness when working with clients. So basically we know
scientifically that solution focused brief therapy works. So instead of
thinking about people with the diagnostic group with which they believe belong
to, what are the cultural group with which they belong to, I want you to think
about like I’m doing therapy with Steve, Chris, Stephanie, Bethany, Laura,
Sarah, Michael. You’re doing therapy with the individual, not the problem or
the group with which they belong to solution focused. Brief therapy is a highly
tailored linguistic way of doing therapy. So try very much to think about the
work I’m doing with this individual because it’s this individual is going to
teach me how to do therapy with him. It’s this individual that we’re
co-constructing that therapy process with in every single session. So it’s not
so much about how do I do solution focused brief therapy with.dot, dot group.

It’s how do I do therapy with the person that I’m sitting
across from because that’s how I can connect with my client. That’s how I can
allow my client can Coke to co-construct the language in the session. That will
lead to the type of questions that the client will experience as helpful,
meaningful, and be lead towards change. So it’s super duper important that we
really, really pay attention and understand that it’s not about I’m doing
therapy with a kind of belonging to a particular group. I’m doing therapy with
an individual because when you connect with a person and when there’s true care
between you and your client, that’s when the magic of solution focused brief
therapies unlocked and it happens. That’s when everything changes. That’s why
we say like you can actually do solution focused brief therapy with any client
with any problem.

Pretty soon I’m going to be teaching an online workshop
with my colleague Chris Iveson, Evan George and Adam Froerer and we, and we
always tell them like you can do this approach with any client with any
problem. And the reason why is because we don’t think about clients from the
perspective of their problem. We think about the magic that happens when one
person connects with another person. The techniques of solution focused brief
therapy are valuable. We have to be able to ask scaling questions, miracle
question, exception finding, but they have to happen within the context of an
effective relationship. So think about that for a minute. It’s not about I’m
doing therapy with a person who belongs to a particular group. I’m doing
therapy with a person and it’s my job to treat that person like a person in
therapy. Right? So look, it’s late and tired. I’ve been driving all day.

I’m going to go into, um, I don’t even know where I am. I
think I’m in college park, which is right outside of DC on my way here. I got
to see the beautiful skyline of DC and the monuments and it’s been wonderful.
So I’m super excited about tomorrow, but I really wanted to share this message
and let you understand you’re doing this approach with a person, never let
solution focused brief therapy techniques or any psychotherapy techniques,
Trump your ability to care and understand the power that lies within that. So
thank you for watching this video. Please like, subscribe, give me a share and
leave me a comment. Let me know what you think about the video. Cause I think
this is one of the most important messages I can share with you. So right now
I’m going to go to sleep. I’m going to get some rest and get ready to kill it
tomorrow. So fist bump people.