Look Behind You

Posted by Elliott Connie - July 14, 2019 - Solution Focused Therapy - No Comments

Life is not easy. We all have challenges to overcome and difficulties that occur and figuring out to keep going to important. In this video I visit my childhood home to share a message of how this can be done in anyone’s life and help them to overcome their problems.

So I just drove a 963 miles from, uh, Dallas, Texas to
Chicago, Illinois to bring my mother some of her stuff. She, my mother moved
from Texas to Chicago because this is where my family is from, which by the
way, this house is really important. I’m going to tell you why in a minute. And
um, she left a lot of our stuff in storage. So me and my best friend just drove
963 miles in a uhaul to bring her stuff. And while we were driving, I kept
having this thought – that’s a long drive. We drove it straight through. It
took us about 16 hours and um, I want to remind everybody not to forget to look
behind you. You know, people think about solution focused, brief therapy being
all about the future. But the past is where evidence of your successes and the
way this trip went.

I mean, 963 miles in one go is a long drive. So I took the
first leg and I drove up to 600 miles. And that personally, again, it was so
long, one of the ways that I kept myself energized instead of focusing on how
much time I had left, I kept looking backwards, right? I kept looking at the
map, looking backwards at how much I had already crossed and somehow seeing how
much I’d already accomplished would give me energy to accomplish even more. But
I think sometimes we forget to look backwards. I think sometimes we forget to
notice how much we’ve already accomplished and we forget to notice how far
we’ve already come. So thus we don’t experience that energy moves from, from
just being aware of what you’ve already accomplished, which you’ve already been
through. So never ever forget to look behind you in your journey.

And behind me, so this is the house I grew up in. I was
born in Chicago, Illinois. Um, it’s really kind of this nostalgic and weird for
me to look at. And I remember this neighborhood, I moved from here when I was
real young, but even just standing in this spot, like I used to play right
here, you know, they say you have to be home before the street lights came on.
That’s the street light that I had to be home before it came on. And I can’t
help but think about how far I’ve come from this little neighborhood in Chicago
with, um, some of the difficult things that happened in my family throughout my
life. This is where it all started. And now I’m 42 years old and I just love
life and I love what I do and I love how I do it and where I do it and all the
rest of it.

But like, this is where it started. So I come here, I
wanted to bring my best friend here to, to see, um, where I come from. He’s
from Texas and I’ve been around his family and I’ve been around where he grew
up and I wanted to show him where I come from. A, now I’m in this spot next
door and my best friend, his name was Wilbur. That’s where he used to live. Um,
it’s just an interesting thing. So look, the future matters. It’s important
because that’s where we’re going to spend the rest of our lives. One of my
quotes is I, I painted you into the future because that’s where I’m going to
live the rest of my life. And it matters. It’s important, but never forget to acknowledge
the past because it’s equally important because that’s where evidence of your
brilliance and wonderfulness exists.

That’s where you acknowledge how far you’ve come and you
and you get energy from all this stuff you’ve accomplished in your past. And I
cannot help but look at this small house in this really dangerous neighborhood
in Chicago and not think about how far I’ve come and, and, and all of the
people that contributed to it. So, uh, don’t forget to look in your past. Don’t
forget to look behind you and find the successes in your life and acknowledge
how far your journey has brought you. I don’t think psychologically I could
have handled this 963 mile drive if I didn’t continuously look at how far I’d
already come. Because before you know it, it just got pretty cool. It’s like,
Oh man, look, we’re more than halfway there. Oh Man, look, we how many people
driven 800 miles in a day like that. That’s kind of how your mindset works.

And I look here and I think, yeah, my life is not perfect
and there’s some challenges and things that happened, but how many people could
make it out of there and, and, and, uh, turn something out of their life. And I
happened to be one of them. So, um, don’t forget to look in the past of your
story as well. So thank you for watching this video. Please give me a like,
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